There’s plenty of talk in the tabloids AKA mainstream media about soul mates lately. I think of this on a stepladder as I burn my ear lobe on a bare bulb overlooking the sad cinderblocks that line our basement.
Armed with scrapers, face mask and a singed ear, I’m on first shift.
This old house is a dream I married into. Scraping crud off its walls is neither creative nor relaxing; the best that can be said for it is how it gets me thinking about soul mates and inherited dreams.
Isn’t it what we do when we partner with someone for life - accept each other’s dreams? Did I fall for my once and future king because of his suave soul, or was it this house he had, the idea of kids pitter pattering around its hardwood floors, the whole suburbia-ever-after scene? I think we were both pretty much on anthropological auto pilot when we tied the knot. Who among us really knows squat about the inner life of the one we’re about to entrust with our destiny?
Do I regret getting hitched to the man who is now on second shift, scraping wads of gunk over the self same sink in which we once scrubbed the pungent diapers? Nope. This marriage was a very slick move despite our deep seated ignorance of the other. Call it grace. But I do have a problem with this soul mate craze. I think normal everyday marriage gets too much traffic from the psycho tourists who blather on about pair bonding and hyper connectivity.
A partnership, I figure after all these years (now they tell me), is an excellent two-for-one deal that requires little if any glimpsing into the soul of another. Are we all that good at discerning our own sacred nature, set alone somebody else’s? There now, it’s all a dubious pleasure park where dreams and happenstance vie for tickets and tokens, handing out teddy bears and scaring us on roller coasters...
A partner is someone you believe you can trust yourself to be kind to over the long haul and whom you trust to treat you well. Soul mate? I’ll pass, thank you, because I really don’t know what it is (beyond what I just described) and I suspect, neither do the seekers in its thrall.
Never one to follow Christian music, I recently read a quote by Rich Mullins, who seems to have been a philosopher bard, long on wisdom, short on fiction, author of the quote I leave with you.
...it was just a few years ago that I finally realized that friendship is not a remedy for loneliness. Loneliness is a part of our experience and if we are looking for relief from loneliness in friendship, we are only going to frustrate the friendship. Friendship, camaraderie, intimacy, all those things, and loneliness live together in the same experience.
Rich Mullins
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That's a great quote - on a topic that's too-little explored. I think many people (and I think women, in particular and in the past, have been very socialized to this), see marriage and romance as a way to "lose themselves" - by which they really mean, to lose the fear of being trapped in your own head that we all need to grapple with.
I feel that I have known for a long time that no one can ever really be inside my head - that I can be as close as humanly possible to people I love, and connected with them - and yet, in some ways, I am still and always me, myself, seperate. It's a hard part of being human. I wish that people could be supported to be braver on this front, to confront it. My marriage is extremely valuable to me - and it's not going to fall apart when I discover that my spouse and I are not, in fact, the same person with the exact same dreams and feelings. It puts too much on any relationship to expect that.
It might be part of what urges us to create - a way of sharing that inside-the-head with others, of forming a connection on the things that feel most unique, so that we feel less lonely.
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'Everybody has a secret world inside of them. All of the people of the world, I mean everybody. No matter how dull and boring they are on the outside, inside them they've all got unimaginable, magnificent, wonderful, stupid, amazing worlds. Not just one world. Hundreds of them. Thousands maybe.'
Neil Gaiman, Sandman
Woman preconceptions
Thank you mccn - I find your take on what it means, especially to women in our culture, to lose oneself in a relationship, very enlightening. Your thoughts about loneliness and self expression synced so much with my own (who channeled who I wonder?) I've quoted you in a post today.
One thing I'd like to explore further is where these messages, especially well absorbed by women, come from? Would there be a good place to start working to unravel some of these myths? It's in areas like this that I wish I had a louder megaphone, because changing this perception would change a lot for the better.
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